Lesson One

Lesson One

As far as life and relationships are concerned, You Get Out What You Put In.

Arthur and activist Gloria Steinmen was quoted with the belief about marriage, "The surest way to be alone is to get married." Would you agree? Has being in a relationship ever made you feel isolated? Well, she probably experienced just that in her marriage, but the reality of how she experiences her marriage will be based upon her belief system. Everyone's experience in a relationship is different, even to the two people in the relationship. Why is that you might ask?

Well, the way you experience your relationship is all about your belief system about relationships as a whole, your paradigm.

Paradigm as defined by Dictionary.com is

3. A set of assumptions, concepts, values, and practices that constitutes a way of viewing reality for the community that shares them, especially in an intellectual discipline.

It seems, Gloria Steinmen had a negative paradigm of how marriage isolated her. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if you have a positive outlook on relationships, and feel good about what you have to OFFER, it will result in a happy relationship that is greatly appreciated by both parties. In any relationship you should have a paradigm based around what you can honestly and comfortably Give to make the inner workings of it all easier.
Think constantly, how can I help to maintain and nurture this? A great relationship and rapport may fall into your lap in the beginning, but the maintenance is work.
Remember our lesson: You get out what you put in. Start today sewing some good seeds in the relationship you have, small positive efforts that need that need little but consistent care. You will reap the rewards in the long run.

Home work: What is you paradigm about you relationship? Is it positive or negative in nature? How can you improve it to get the results you want out of your relationship? Comment about your seeding and how its affecting your relationship....we all need the tips ;)